What’s Your Favorite Body Part?

Posted in: Blog, HairCare Corner, Health/Body Corner, Sexy, SkinCare/Grooming Solutions, Style Corner by Ms. Ayo Fashola on November 2, 2011 10:21 am

Sometimes we ask ourselves after leaving the dressing room, “What was up with those horrible  lights in the dressing room?” “Those mirrors brought out everything I don’t like about my thighs.” All of us have experienced a range of emotions while in the changing room—often it can be a place full of creativity, excitement and confidence but for many people it is also a place they have come to associate with feeling some not-so-positive emotions to say the least!

Focus On The Positive

I remember a few years ago I worked with a client who didn’t feel so great about her body. Deciphering flaws and assets was a crucial part to her looking her best but it also raised some very sensitive issues with her, which I needed to be conscious and considerate of.  The aim of course was to help my client to look more positively at any areas she perceived as flawed and help her to focus the majority of her attention on becoming aware of her best assets.  Patrice (name changed to protect identity) sat at her dinner table and I pulled out a pen and notepad. It was time to take inventory of the best she was working with.

Ayo: The key to looking good and feeling great is to focus on your favorite features. What are the 3 things that you love most about the way you look?

Patrice: Ok! this is a hard one. I’d like to hide everything! My thighs, my arms, my legs, my shoulders, my neck, my bust-line, my stomach. I don’t feel good about any part of my body. All I see is that I have really big thighs and I have no breast. I’m not happy with any of it. My mother always constantly told me I needed to lose weight in my thighs. I feel really self-conscious about this area.

Ayo: I understand how you feel Patrice. There are times when I have not always felt great about my body. I’d look in the mirror and only see what I didn’t like, but there has to be some things about your physical you feel really proud of. Focusing on the positive and not the negative makes you look at yourself from a fresh perspective and in a completely different light. Perhaps I can start the list for you. What I see first is that beautiful smile that you have. You are also tall which helps you look slimmer overall. You have a very defined waist and a beautiful collarbone.

Patrice: Thank you! You are right, I never thought about how height can make you look slimmer overall and that is something I naturally have. I do love my eyes. I love the color and the shape. I do have a nice round booty also. Glossy, healthy hair and you are right I do have a defined waist line. This is something I’d not even really considered.

Ayo: Yes. We each have features that we admit to liking about ourselves; it’s not arrogant to say that you have nice legs, or great hair. It’s important to be grateful for the positive things about ourselves, and to acknowledge the ways in which we are blessed. The Style Coaching™ philosophy truly believes that each and every one of us is beautiful and none of us in the exact same way. We need to celebrate our features, and learn how to dress to make the most of our figure challenges.

Looking great is about working in harmony with your body shape, not against it. It’s all about creating balance, through the clever camouflaging of your figure challenges, and the enhancement of your favorite features.

Your Turn

Everyone has positive attributes to their body shape; we just need to shift the focus so that they can begin to be recognized more.

From your teeth to your toes, lips to legs, what’s your favorite body part?

What’s your least favorite? And the part you try to camouflage? 

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